In grief it is often hard to do something tangible. It is difficult because grief is the reality of a feeling. Grief wreaks the body. It seeps into the cracks. It overcomes the strong and brings them to their knees to where the feeble are. Grief it has a pattern, but can not be explained.
It is difficult to describe grief because it is different in every situation and circumstance. It changes and morphs. The response to grief varies. Will this be the correct response for this person in this moment? Or is better to wait? Better to hold ones tongue? Better to hug? Or better to let be?
When presented with grief it is hard to know how to respond and it is hard to do something tangible. Yet in the midst of tragedy there are tangible things that can be done. Meals can be brought, clothes cleaned, houses swept, children looked after. And though tragedy and grief are not mutually exclusive the way they are responded to looks so very different.
In grief I will meet you.
In tragedy and suffering I can meet your needs.